In this week’s issue, we dive into the hidden causes of perfectionism, from childhood conditioning to societal pressure, and explore why so many of us tie our worth to what we achieve rather than who we are.
Dear Readers,
Have you ever found yourselves exhausted from trying to “get it all right”?
That quiet voice that says, “It’s not good enough yet… you’re not good enough yet,”… that’s the cry of a perfectionist. Over the past weeks, we’ve been unpacking what lies beneath that voice, its patterns, its pain, and how it shapes the way we live, love, and see ourselves.
A Brief Recap:
In Part 1, we defined perfectionism as a set of self-defeating thought patterns that drive us to chase unrealistic or unattainable goals.
In Part 2, we explored the difference between positive and negative perfectionism:
Negative perfectionists see mistakes as signs of unworthiness.
Positive perfectionists view mistakes as opportunities for learning and growth.
We also discussed how negative perfectionism can lead to procrastination, anxiety, and missed opportunities.
If you missed any of the previous parts, you can catch up in the links below:
This Week, we will examine the Causes of Negative Perfectionism
Below are some of the common origins that often shape perfectionistic tendencies:
Food for Thought
At the heart of perfectionism lies a fragile belief: “My worth depends on what I do, not who I am.”
Many perfectionists live in constant pursuit of approval, trying to please others, fearing disapproval, and forgetting that their value exists beyond performance.
Next Week
Join me for the finale of this series, where we would share practical tools and mindset shifts to manage or overcome negative perfectionism and finally find peace in progress, not perfection.
Until then, remember, you are enough, even when things are not perfect.
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